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There is a kid who does not know that you have been adopted!

There is a kid who does not know that you have been adopted!


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Unfortunately, many children are burdened with both children and adoptive parents if their environment is not sufficiently flexible and open. The Wildlife Garden's parent group helps families with these difficulties.


With the group leader, dr. Bбtki Anna clinical psychology was discussed before the group started.
- Do you still have beliefs that make family life difficult to accept? Do you have a child who doesn't have a child? Or is it more of a difficult situation because of the failure of the adoptive parent?
- Prejudice is not as parenting as adopted children: many social stereotypes make it difficult for parents to adopt because of their ethnicity, eg, or Roma properties "coveted" by the Blood of Blood. At the same time, in my own research and clinical work, I have not encountered reports suggesting that we can still "give birth" to those who cannot have children - of course, it cannot be ruled out that this problem may occur.
- Do parents ever tell a child to be adopted? What kind of difficulties do such children have to deal with?
- Unfortunately, it is possible that adoptees do not communicate with children at all. Even more often, parents tend to postpone this to their children because of their particular anxieties. However, such a serious family "secret" will inevitably lead to serious difficulties and problems.
I am convinced that the secret strategy of the parents cannot be successful: the children are aware and they think that something is "wrong". There are no pictures in the album when you were "mom was pregnant", you do not hear family stories before birth, or they may not resemble parents. In certain situations, such as medical exams, children suddenly notice silences, sobs, or just hear something secret from parents or grandparents. This severe insecurity can lead to emotional and behavioral disturbances, disturbances in the parent-child relationship, and even more serious problems during the development of identity during adolescence.

Can Distress Be Prevented?

- Some of you are dealing with a more difficult situation than the average parent. Some people find it difficult to handle the little thing independently of the child. There are people who would like to know nothing about a child in the blood. There are those who feel that this other discarded baby has to give it all. Can these newer sensations also be prepared for? Can these hardships be prevented?
- They cannot be prevented because these difficulties are true and should not be denied: the education of an adopted child will inevitably lead to additional difficulties, not always simple, light-hearted tasks. However, weights can be handled properly. It is important to note that many people choose to adopt when they realize that (for health, age, or other reasons) no child can be born - many times sad and physically and mentally burdensome. The key to a successful adoption role is for parents to come through their own grief, trauma, and be able to accept their adopted child. Likewise, it is essential that they have a basically positive attitude towards the child's parents, rather than with contempt. All this requires the proper knowledge as well as a thorough understanding of the special challenges of adoption. These can be completed in preparation courses for those planning to adopt. And, of course, it is important to recognize the moment when some professional help is needed: consultation, support groups or even family therapy sessions are available to the adoptees. Fortunately, there are more and more of these, though not long enough, and professionalism has also changed.Recognizing this need, the number of parents who have received group therapy / training from the Wildlife Garden and Specialty Board in October 2011 is October 2011. During the training, parents help parents recognize, raise awareness, and resolve the psychological factors behind the difficulties in parenting children. The 10-time sorбn kцrbejбrjбk the цrцkbefogadбs and children received the цrцkbe nevelйse sorбn frequently felmerьlх kйrdйseket йs problйmбkat (eg. Whose йs how beszйljьnk the цrцkbefogadбsrуl how йs when I tell gyerekьnknek, kapcsolattartбs testvйrekkel of vйr, szьlхvel of vйr teenage identitбskrнzis, etc.), and besides addressing the most pressing concerns of the participants.
They also attach great importance to the transfer of modern knowledge in the field of adoption.